Q & A with asha & keshiia of meet bridget

OUR EPISODE TODAY IS TAKING A DIFFERENT ROUTE THAN USUAL. ON OUR LAST EPISODE OF SEASON 1, WE BROUGHT IN ONE OF OUR LISTENERS, JESSICA, AND WE’VE DECIDED TO INCORPORATE MORE OF OUR LISTENERS THIS SEASON.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE LET OUR LISTENERS ASK THE QUESTIONS. FROM TOPICS ABOUT THE PODCAST, TIPS ON BEING A YOUNG WOMAN, OUR LIVES, EXPERIENCES, AND ANYTHING YOU WANT TO ASK, WE’LL ANSWER. WE PROMISE TO BE AUTHENTIC AND GIVE OUR BEST ADVICE WITH EVERY QUESTION. LET’S DIVE IN!

 

career:

what are your tips on job applications? how do you know it’s successful or not successful?

KESHIIA: LOOKING FOR A JOB TODAY IS DIFFERENT FROM OUR EXPERIENCE WHEN WE GRADUATED IN THE EARLY 2010’S. NOWADAYS, EVERYTHING IS ONLINE. AND I FEEL LIKE IT’S TWO PARTS. ONE IS IT’S A NUMBERS GAME, YOU NEED TO SEND OUT AS MANY APPLICATIONS AS YOU CAN. AND SECOND, YOU NEED TO DO YOUR DUE DILIGENCE IN RESEARCHING THE COMPANIES YOU’RE APPLYING TO.

FOR ME, SENDING OUT APPLICATIONS IS JUST HALF THE TICKET. THE OTHER HALF IS DOING YOUR RESEARCH AND PREPARING YOURSELF FOR THE INTERVIEW.

ASHA: I WAS ONE OF THOSE PEOPLE WHO WOULD SIT IN FRONT OF THE COMPUTER AND SEND OUT APPLICATIONS ONLINE, CAREFULLY CURATING MY RESUME, BUT IT GOT ME EXHAUSTED. I REALIZED THAT THE BEST APPROACH TO FIND A JOB IS TO FIND A PERSON THAT WORKS IN THE COMPANY YOU’RE LOOKING TO APPLY TO. REACH OUT TO THAT PERSON AND EXPRESS INTEREST IN WANTING TO LISTEN ABOUT THEIR JOB OR THEIR CHOSEN CAREER PATH. ASK HONEST QUESTIONS. AND FROM AN EARNEST CONVERSATION, THAT PERSON MIGHT INTRODUCE YOU TO SOMEBODY IN THE COMPANY THAT CAN HELP YOU. SO FOCUS LESS ON WHAT YOU CAN GET FROM SOMEONE, AND MORE ON JUST GETTING INTERESTED IN PEOPLE AND WHAT YOU CAN LEARN.

KESHIIA: COMMUNICATION IS EVERYTHING. REACHING OUT AND CONNECTING IS POWERFUL. AND IF THINGS DON’T TURN OUT THE WAY YOU EXPECT IT TO BE, DON’T BE DISCOURAGED. THE FIRST COUPLE PEOPLE YOU REACH OUT TO MIGHT BE WAY TOO BUSY TO HAVE A SIT DOWN, BUT THAT SIX PERSON WILL GIVE YOU THEIR ENTIRE LIBRARY OF KNOWLEDGE.

ASHA/KESHIIA: WHEN YOU DON’T HAVE ENOUGH EXPERIENCE, DIFFERENTIATE YOURSELF WITH YOUR PERSONALITY, YOUR WORK ETHIC, HONESTY AND LEARN TO FOLLOW UP. FOLLOWING UP MIGHT JUST MAKE YOU MEMORABLE TO THE EMPLOYER. SOMETIMES, IT MIGHT TAKE LONGER FOR THEM TO FINALLY NOTICE YOU, SUCCESS DOESN’T HAPPEN OVERNIGHT. YOU JUST NEED TO LEARN TO BE PERSISTENT AND PATIENT AT THE SAME TIME.

ASHA: LASTLY, WRITE A THANK YOU CARD. NOT JUST A THANK YOU EMAIL, BUT A THANK YOU CARD. BE SINCERE AND SEND IT TO THEM, BECAUSE THOSE LITTLE THINGS WILL SET YOU APART, AND THAT’S THE KEY TO GETTING NOTICED.

 

what is it like trying to tackle motherhood whilst working?

ASHA: BEING A MOM AND WORKING IS HARD. LIKE A LOT OF WORKING MOMS, THIS IS A CHALLENGE ESPECIALLY MOMS WITH YOUNGER KIDS. MY ADVICE IS GET HELP IF YOU CAN. YOU WILL FEEL GUILTY ABOUT NOT HAVING ENOUGH TIME FOR YOUR CHILD, BUT TAKE IT DAY BY DAY AND TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. IT’S GOING TO BE A LITTLE MESSY, AND THAT’S OKAY.

 

finance:

what are the taboos around speaking openly about finances and tips you can give for better budgeting?

ASHA: FOR WHATEVER REASON, WE HAVE SUCH A HARD TIME SPEAKING OPENLY ABOUT OUR FINANCES, BUT I THINK IT REALLY COMES FROM I THINK WE HAVE HESITANCY TO SPEAK ABOUT WHAT WE’RE NOT SUPER CONFIDENT ABOUT SOMETIMES. SO I THINK IT’S OKAY TO ADMIT THAT, LIKE, I HAVE A LOT TO LEARN. AND A WAY TO REALLY START BUDGETING IS REALLY SETTING A SCHEDULE FOR YOURSELF, TO JUST KNOW WHAT YOU’RE SPENDING ON.

KESHIIA: THERE’S SO MANY APPS TODAY TO KEEP UP WITH YOUR FINANCES, AND ONE OF THEM IS YOUR OWN PREFERRED BUDGET CALCULATOR. AS MILLENNIALS, THIS IS SOMETHING YOU CAN USE TO KEEP TRACK OF YOUR EXPENSES. HOWEVER, THERE ARE PEOPLE LIKE ME WHO STILL PREFER TO WRITE DOWN EXPENSES. BUT WHICHEVER YOU PREFER TO MAKE YOU STAY ORGANIZED WITH YOUR FINANCES, DO IT.

 

how easy or difficult is applying for a credit card for you?

ASHA: I WOULD SAY MY PIECE OF ADVICE WHEN IT COMES TO CARDS IS THAT I PERSONALLY STARTED WITH A DEBIT CARD. KNOWING THERE’S MONEY, AND I COULD SEE THINGS SUBTRACTED FROM IT, MAKES ME AWARE I’M NOT SPENDING MORE THAN I HAVE. I HAD MY CREDIT CARD LATER ON WHICH ALSO HAS ADVANTAGES WHICH CAN EARN POINTS, EARN CASHBACK, AND EARN YOUR CREDIT PROFILE. IT CAN HELP IN APPLYING FOR LOANS SUCH AS HOUSE LOANS. AND HAVING A CREDIT CARD TAUGHT ME TO START SAVING.

 

what are your favorite tips to save money?

ASHA: I THINK THAT AUTOMATING MONEY GOING INTO SAVINGS IS THE BEST TIP.

KESHIIA: ONLY DEPOSIT WHAT YOU THINK YOU CAN SAVE. GET IN THE HABIT OF SETTING SOMETHING ASIDE FOR A RAINY DAY. AND IF YOUR CARDS ARE LINKED, AT THE END OF EVERY MONTH, JUST TRANSFER THE AMOUNT OF MONEY TO COVER YOUR CREDIT CARD.

 IF YOU WANT TO START THINKING ABOUT CREATING AN INVESTMENT PORTFOLIO, NOW’S A GOOD TIME TO DO THAT. AND IT DOESN’T HAVE TO BE A CRAZY AMOUNT OF MONEY. YOU CAN PUT AWAY LIKE $10, $15, $20 EVERY TWO WEEKS AND THEN HAVE THAT START GOING INTO YOUR PORTFOLIO.

IN CREDIT CARDS, PAY ATTENTION TO APR AND INTEREST RATES, AND MAKE SURE YOU’RE PAYING THINGS OFF IN A TIMELY MANNER. PAY IT OFF LONG BEFORE THE BILL IS DUE.

ASHA: IN INVESTING, IF YOU’RE YOUNG, THE MONEY THAT YOU’RE PUTTING AWAY TO INVEST IS MONEY THAT YOU DON’T NEED FOR A LONG TIME. EVEN IF THE STOCK MARKET FLUCTUATES, YOUR MONEY CAN STILL GROW OVERTIME. ALSO, HAVE A LIQUID EMERGENCY FUND, WHICH YOU CAN USE RIGHT AWAY IF NEEDED.

 

body image & self – confidence:

what’s your stance on the whole industry that revolves around menstrual cycles?

KESHIIA: THE INDUSTRY IS CHANGING. SOME COMPANIES ARE COMING UP WITH ALL OF THESE NEW INNOVATIVE PRODUCTS TO MAKE MENSTRUATION MORE COMFORTABLE AND EASIER ON WOMEN. AND I THINK THERE WILL ALWAYS BE CONTROVERSY ABOUT THE WAY THAT WOMEN TALK ABOUT THEIR BODIES, BECAUSE FOR SO LONG, NOBODY DID THAT. OVER TIME, PEOPLE WILL HOPEFULLY GET MORE COMFORTABLE HEARING ABOUT THESE THINGS, THE MORE THAT WE TALK ABOUT THEM.

ASHA: BEING OPEN ABOUT THIS TOPIC IS IMPORTANT. THE VALUE OF HAVING WOMEN WHO YOU’RE COMFORTABLE WITH, AND IT CAN BE A FAMILY MEMBER, IT CAN BE A SISTER, IT CAN BE A MOM. BEING ABLE TO SHARE IT WITH SOMEONE AND CAN TALK ABOUT IT NORMALLY TAKES AWAY THE SHAME.

 

what advice can you give women that don’t feel like they fit the beauty standards of ongoing trends?

ASHA: SOCIAL MEDIA HAS MADE A HUGE IMPACT ON BEAUTY FOR A LOT OF WOMEN. WE COMPARE OURSELVES TO THE STANDARD OF BEAUTY SOCIAL MEDIA POSES. BUT IF YOU CHANGE YOURSELF JUST TO CONFORM WITH SOCIETY’S DEFINITION OF BEAUTY, THEN YOU LOSE WHAT MAKES YOU UNIQUE OR SPECIAL.

KESHIIA: THE REALITY IS THAT THAT STANDARD IS GOING TO CHANGE AGAIN IN ANOTHER FIVE YEARS. AND UNLESS YOU WANT TO CONTINUOUSLY PUT YOURSELF THROUGH THAT TORTURE, YOU GOT TO TAKE THE TIME RIGHT NOW TO BE HAPPY AND CONTENT IN YOUR OWN SKIN, WHATEVER THAT LOOKS LIKE.

 

how old were you when you realized it was okay to be different?

ASHA: I THINK THAT IT ACTUALLY TOOK ME A LONG TIME. BUT WHAT I’VE LEARNED IS AS SOON AS YOU CAN START IDENTIFYING THINGS THAT ARE DIFFERENT ABOUT YOU, WRITE THEM DOWN SOMEWHERE. YOU DON’T NEED TO GET RID OF THE THING THAT MAKES YOU DIFFERENT, YOU HAVE TO SHARE WITH IT. CHERISH IT BECAUSE IN THE LONG RUN THOSE THINGS ARE GOING TO BE YOUR JEWELS.

KESHIIA: AND WHEN YOU’RE FEELING DOWN, OR HAVING BAD THOUGHTS, WRITE IT DOWN. THIS IS ACTUALLY A CBT TRICK, COGNITIVE BEHAVIORAL THERAPY. WRITE THOSE AUTOMATIC THOUGHTS DOWN AND GO BACK TO IT 30 SECONDS OR AN HOUR LATER. READ THEM AGAIN AND RESPOND TO THAT IN A WAY THAT YOU WOULD RESPOND TO A FRIEND BECAUSE I GUARANTEE YOU IT WILL BE DIFFERENT FROM THE THINGS THAT YOU TELL YOURSELF. AND THE MORE THAT YOU DO THAT THE MORE YOU REWIRE YOUR BRAIN TO START THINKING POSITIVELY AND UNSNAP ITSELF FROM THAT MENTAL HITCH.

how to balance your work life with school life and your social life as a young adult?

KESHIIA: I’VE WORKED ALL THROUGH COLLEGE AND WORKED HARD BUT I EVENTUALLY GOT BURNOUT. MY ADVICE IS YOU HAVE TO FIND A BALANCE THAT WORKS FOR YOU. AND YOU HAVE TO HONOR WHAT YOUR BODY, SOUL AND SPIRIT NEEDS. EVERYBODY’S DIFFERENT. EVERYBODY GOES AT THEIR OWN PACE. SO IF YOU FIND THAT YOU CAN WORK, WORK, BUT DON’T DO IT TO EXHAUSTION, AND MAKE SURE THAT YOU’RE PRIORITIZING THE THING THAT IS MOST IMPORTANT TO YOU, WHICH I WOULD THINK WOULD BE THE SCHOOL PORTION OF IT.

 

relationships:

how does one learn the boundaries of being a respectful adult living with their parents while also being independent?

ASHA: IT’S GONNA BE HARD. LIVING WITH YOUR PARENTS OBVIOUSLY HAS SO MANY BENEFITS. ESPECIALLY DURING THE PANDEMIC, A LOT OF YOUNG ADULTS HAD TO MOVE TO THEIR PARENT’S HOME. YOU HAVE TO REESTABLISH SOME NEW RULES AND CONTEXT WITH YOUR PARENTS. AND WHEN YOU’RE HOME, YOUR FAMILY WANTS TO FEEL CONNECTED TO YOU. I THINK MAKING SURE YOU’RE EXPRESSING THAT APPRECIATION BY BEING PRESENT WITH THEM. AND MAKING TIME FOR THEM WILL MAKE THE WHOLE EXPERIENCE MUCH EASIER.

 

first breakups are always difficult. what are some actionable tips you would give teens and young women to make them realize their worth?

ASHA: IT’S ABOUT LEARNING TO LISTEN TO YOUR GUT FEELING. ASK YOURSELF WHY AND REALLY TAKE INVENTORY OF YOURSELF. THAT HELPS YOU FEEL YOUR WORTH. I THINK YOU ALSO DON’T OWE IT TO SOMEONE TO MORPH YOURSELF INTO WHAT SOMEONE ELSE WANTS OUT OF YOU IN A RELATIONSHIP. IT’S JUST USUALLY WHEN YOU’RE REALLY REALLY YOUNG, THOSE ARE ALL JUST LIKE LEARNING RELATIONSHIPS.

KESHIIA: WITH EVERY RELATIONSHIP IN YOUR LIFE, ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS INCLUDED, YOU OWE IT TO YOURSELF TO BE HONEST AND TRUE. AND THAT’S THE ONLY THING THAT YOU SHOULD PROMISE ANYBODY ELSE. BECAUSE IF YOU’RE NOT IN AN HONEST RELATIONSHIP, WHERE YOU’RE ABLE TO SHOW UP FULLY PRESENT AS WHO YOU ARE, THEN IT’S NOT A RELATIONSHIP WORTH HAVING.

ASHA: ALSO, DURING SOME OF MY PREVIOUS RELATIONSHIPS, MY RELATIONSHIP WITH MY FRIENDS SUFFERED A BIT. I REALIZED I SHOULD HAVE PRIORITIZED MY FRIENDSHIPS TOO AND NOT SHOULD HAVE STAYED TOO FOCUSED ON MY ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP. SO I THINK THAT JUST KNOWING THE VALUE OF YOUR FRIENDSHIPS MATTERS MORE THAN YOUR ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS. BECAUSE THE RIGHT ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP WILL CELEBRATE YOU INVESTING IN YOUR OTHER FRIENDS.

KESHIIA: ONE POST BREAKUP TIP TO HELP SOMEBODY RECOGNIZE THEIR WORTH, THROW YOURSELF INTO SOMETHING CREATIVE. YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE A CREATIVE PERSON TO DO IT. BUT I THINK JUST THE ACTION OF DOING SOMETHING CREATIVE CAN BE AN OUTLET FOR YOUR ENERGY TO FLOW WHICH IS REALLY HELPFUL IN TIMES OF FLUX.

AND THEN THE OTHER TIP I HAVE FOR PRE-BREAKUP, IF YOU’RE IN A RELATIONSHIP THAT’S NOT HEALTHY, AND YOU FEEL LIKE YOU NEED TO GET OUT OF IT. I THINK YOU NEED TO SIT WITH YOURSELF AND LOOK IN THE MIRROR AND SAY I DESERVE BETTER. AND REACH OUT TO RESOURCES, TALK TO YOUR FRIENDS, TALK TO YOUR FAMILY, ESTABLISH THOSE CONNECTIONS AGAIN, BECAUSE THE STRONGER THE RELATIONSHIPS OUTSIDE OF THE ONE THAT YOU’RE IN CAN BE THE MORE EMPOWERED YOU WILL FEEL. KNOWING THAT THAT RELATIONSHIP IS NOT THE ONE THING IN YOUR LIFE THAT YOU’RE LIVING FOR.

 

fast three questions:

 what’s one beauty product that you can’t go without?

ASHA: ONE THAT I’VE DISCOVERED RECENTLY THAT HAS CHANGED MY LIFE IS THAT ELYMUS COLLAGEN CLEANSING STUFF. INSTEAD OF USING MAKEUP WIPES AND A LOT OF STUFF TO TRY TO GET MY MAKEUP OFF AND SCRUBBING MY FACE. I USE THIS AND IT LITERALLY MELTS YOUR MAKEUP OFF AND THEN YOU JUST WASH IT USING A CLEANSER AFTERWARDS.

KESHIIA: I CAN’T GO WITHOUT MY EYEBROWS SET. THE FIRST THING THAT I USE IS THE NSC DIP POWDER, BROW GEL OVER IT. AND THEN THE NUMBER THREE IS PATRICK TOS BROW LAMINATION GEL.

 

what’s one beauty hack that’s made getting ready so much easier?

ASHA: ALWAYS WASH YOUR FACE AND TAKE YOUR MAKEUP OFF BEFORE YOU GO TO BED, IT MAKES MY SKIN SO MUCH BETTER. AND ONE BEAUTY HACK, I THINK IS FIND YOUR THINGS THAT ARE MINIMAL. FOR ME, I’M USING THE ILIA FOUNDATION.

KESHIIA: I THINK THE ONLY THING I WOULD ADD TO THAT IS I HAVE MY FIVE THINGS TO GO PACK. AND I JUST LEAVE THEM ON MY BATHROOM COUNTER IN THE MORNING SO I CAN GET READY VERY QUICKLY.

 

if you could visit your child self and give them one piece of advice, what would you say?

ASHA: EMBRACE WHAT MAKES YOU DIFFERENT. ALL THE THINGS THAT I’M DOING, AND THE THINGS THAT I HAVE DONE BROUGHT ME THE MOST SUCCESS AND HAPPINESS AND JOY TODAY. THOSE HAVE BEEN ALL THE CELEBRATIONS OF THINGS THAT MAKE ME.
KESHIIA: IF I COULD GIVE MYSELF ONE PIECE OF ADVICE, IT WOULD BE THERE ARE NO LIMITATIONS ON WHAT YOU CAN DO, YOU CAN LITERALLY DO ANYTHING. EVERYTHING ANYONE’S EVER TOLD YOU IN LIFE, ABOUT WHAT YOU CAN OR CANNOT DO IS THEIR OWN PRECONCEPTION. AND MOST THINGS IN THIS WORLD ARE REALLY A MATTER OF PUTTING ONE FOOT IN FRONT OF THE OTHER AND JUST GOING FOR IT INCESSANTLY AND JUST PLAYING THE LONG GAME, ANYTHING YOU WANT IN THIS LIFE IS ACHIEVABLE. IF YOU PLAY THE LONG GAME.

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